A Bloke’s Honest Take on Menopause at Home”

Every now and then a client sits in the shave chair and drops a line that stops me mid–lather. Recently, one bloke leaned back, sighed like a man carrying the weight of the world, and said:

“Mate… it’s like living with seven axe murderers in one day.”

Now, before anyone sharpens their pitchforks — he wasn’t being cruel. He wasn’t mocking his partner. He was trying to explain the emotional whiplash he’d been experiencing at home while she navigated menopause. And honestly? His description was raw, hilarious, and painfully accurate.

He told me how she could go from calm to crying faster than he could boil the kettle. How choosing between tea or coffee suddenly felt like he’d entered some kind of domestic escape room challenge. And how conversations had changed — she was there physically, but mentally? It was as if someone had hit the mute button the moment he opened his mouth.

“She just zoned out, mate,” he said.
“Like she loves me, but she can’t actually hear me.”

And that right there is the most honest thing a man can admit during this chapter of life.

Men Aren’t The Problem — We’re Just Unprepared

Most men aren’t neglectful. They aren’t heartless. They’re not idiots. They simply have zero training for menopausal turbulence. No one taught us what’s normal, what’s hormonal, what’s emotional, or what’s just part of the natural biological storm she didn’t choose to enter.

So what do we do?
We muddle through. We guess. We hope for the best.
And sometimes we end up standing in the kitchen, holding a mug, wondering whether coffee is a loving gesture or a tactical error.

Behind the Chaos: She’s Struggling Too

Here’s the bit men often forget: while we’re trying to decode her mood shifts, she’s wrestling with things we can’t see — hormone crashes, brain fog, anxiety spikes, sleep loss, night sweats (or in some cases, freezing cold spells), and a sense of losing who she used to be.

It’s not that she’s ignoring you.
It’s not that she doesn’t care.
It’s that her brain is running a marathon while she’s trying to make breakfast.

Men Speak Out (But Only in the Barber’s Chair)

Over the years, I’ve heard countless variations of the same theme:

“I didn’t know what version of her I was waking up to.”

“She’d zone out mid-sentence — I thought she was bored of me!”

“Tea or coffee became a trick question. I failed every time.”

“I’m trying to help… I just don’t know how.”

These aren’t complaints. They’re confessions — and they all point toward one truth:
Men want to support the women they love; they just need a roadmap.

This Is Why I Wrote The Menopause Survival Guide for Blokes

Because men deserve guidance that’s practical, clear, and free of judgment.
Because women deserve partners who understand what’s happening beneath the surface.
Because relationships don’t have to suffer — not when we’ve got the right tools and knowledge.

If a man can survive “seven axe murderers in one day,” he can absolutely learn how to navigate menopause with empathy, confidence, and (most importantly) teamwork.

The Bottom Line

Menopause isn’t the enemy.
Your partner isn’t the enemy.
The real enemy is silence — not talking about it, not learning about it, and not recognising that both of you are going through a seismic shift.

So if you’re a bloke feeling lost, confused, or like you’re starring in your own emotional horror film… you’re not alone. And you don’t have to wing it anymore.

Let’s talk. Let’s learn. And let’s make this chapter one you get through together.