Firstly, it seems that quite a few of you have missed my recent posts, and I’ve been truly overwhelmed by the kind messages and check-ins, asking if I’m okay.
Your concern means the world to me, and I want to assure you that I’m doing well. Sometimes life just gets a bit busy or overwhelming, and I need a little time to catch my breath.
Thank you all for your support and for thinking of me — it really brightens my day!
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It’s funny, isn’t it? How the smallest things can sometimes be the biggest tests of patience. Over the years, I’ve learned that love isn’t just about grand gestures; it’s about understanding and embracing the everyday quirks that make someone uniquely themselves. And when those quirks are intertwined with the challenges of menopause, well, that’s when patience truly becomes an act of love.
My darling wife has been navigating the choppy waters of menopause, and it’s been quite the journey for both of us. What I’ve come to realise is that some of the little things that used to irk me are no longer worth a second thought. Why? Because I see her trying her best every single day, and that’s all that matters.
So, in the spirit of love and understanding, here’s my list of things I no longer moan about and urge you to do the same:
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Leaving Cupboard and Fridge Doors Open: It used to drive me nuts. Now, I just see it as a little reminder to double-check things myself. Maybe she’s got a lot on her mind, and a slightly ajar door is the least of our worries.
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Forgetting to Put the Cap Back on the Toothpaste: A minor inconvenience, really. I mean, who hasn’t done it? Now, I just smile and cap it myself. It’s a small gesture that says, “I’ve got you.”
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Leaving Lights On After Leaving a Room: Energy conservation is important, but so is her comfort. If a little extra light helps her feel secure, I’m happy to foot the bill.
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Leaving Socks Scattered on the Floor: Okay, this one used to get under my skin. But now? I pick them up with a smile. It’s a tiny act of service that shows I care.
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Misplacing Her Reading Glasses: We’ve all been there, squinting and searching. Now, I join the hunt, turning it into a mini-adventure. Sometimes, we find them in the silliest places, and it gives us a good laugh.
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Losing House and Car Keys: This can be a bit stressful, but I’ve learned to take a deep breath and help her retrace her steps. It’s a team effort, and we always find them eventually.
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Sharing the Bed with a Water Bottle (and Not Just in Winter!): Menopause can bring on some intense temperature fluctuations. If a water bottle helps her stay comfortable, I’m all for it.
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Putting Her Ice-Cold Feet on Me in Bed: Yes, it’s a shock to the system, but I’ve learned to see it as her way of saying, “Warm me up!” Plus, it’s kind of endearing in its own way.
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Falling Asleep on the Sofa While Watching a Movie: She works hard, and sometimes she just needs to unwind. I gently cover her with a blanket and let her rest.
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Driving Everywhere at 30 mph: Safety first! I might tease her about it, but I appreciate her cautious approach, (but admit, I like to do all the driving now)
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Spending Hours in the Supermarket on Food Shopping (Her “Retail Therapy”): Hey, everyone needs a little escape. If wandering the aisles of the supermarket brings her joy, I’m all for it. Plus, we always end up with some interesting new snacks.
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Kicking Shoes Off and Leaving Them All Over the House: A small price to pay for her comfort. I just gather them up and put them away, no big deal.
Now, do I think these are just random habits? Absolutely not. I know they’re connected to the hormonal shifts and daily challenges she faces with menopause. Before menopause was officially diagnosed, she didn’t do any of these things!
But through it all, I love her even more today than I did yesterday. She’s still the same incredible woman I fell in love with 24 years ago, quirks and all. Menopause may bring changes, but it hasn’t changed the essence of who she is.
So, here’s to love, understanding, and a little bit of patience.
Happy Valentine’s Day, darling. Thank you for being you, always. X
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